honour

“You want people to honour you. Are you honourable? ” —- Daniel Agba I was the bible study coordinator of my Fellowship (FCS FUTMINNA) in my campus in 2017. We were having a retreat, and we invited my predecessor. That was when he made that statement quoted above. Hmmm… Oh mehn I felt so incompetent occupying that office! (I will talk about it some day). Consequent of my feeling unqualified/incompetent, I was having a feeling that people were not beingrespectful or loyal to my leadership. Then those words quoted above, dropped from my predecessor’s mouth. Wow! I was swept off my feet. And the feeling changed from feeling disrespected or not receiving loyalty to feelings with questions to myself: Do I really deserve their respect? Have I shown the faith and courage? Do I study diligently to speak as I ought? Do I respect them? Should I even expect their loyalty and respect? Do they owe it to me? Should I beckon on them to pay me the debts of respect and loyalty? All these questions changed my focus… I started setting mind on things like: it is my responsibility to be honourable, if they like they should honour; it is my responsibility to show enough conviction and convincing to them if they like they should follow; it is my responsibility to study diligently, etc. I have seen many elders striving for a place of respect and honour in the heart of a young one or among some young ones. Please tap your neighbor and say that just as the fathers always say “respect is earned”. “Be respectful, honourable, valuable, and that young one will honour you without bounds”. Let’s hope to talk about some practical things to do to command respect and honour. Doesn’t mean people won’t disrespect you though, even when/if you are respectable.Blessings!