Author name: Tochukwu Maxwell

THE TRAFFIC OF LIFE

Have you ever been caught up in a traffic jam? You had idealized a 45 minutes trip but you came to a particular point where you are compelled to enqueue behind other cars – it’s a road traffic, and on looking back from your car you find that fleets of cars had appeared behind you out of the blues. Hence you’re locked in; horns banging from all side, engines roaring all around metaphorically screaming Move! Move!! Move!!! In the end a journey of 45 minutes elongated into 2 hours. This can be very frustrating (I know because I have experienced it). Nevertheless I have learned countless life’s lessons from it but let’s look at a few. Traffic can cause pressure and the consequences of giving in to pressure can be very costly.In life as in traffic, you can be in a spot watching unmoving challenge in front of you and at the same time the responsibilities of your family, your boss in the office or even your friends horning behind you to do something. Do not out of haste give in to these pressures of the traffic of life that you impatiently run into the challenges in front of you without discretion. Just as some in a traffic jam have hit the cars infront of them and paid a costly fine for lack of patience.Sometimes you will see the other lane moving while your lane is in halt and you will be under pressure to switch lanes: if you’re continually switching lanes you will end up causing trouble for yourself. In life sometimes your present choice of career may be experiencing a hold up, it would be unwise to keep switching from one job to another because of this, you will not build competence that way; such a person will become Jack of all trade and master of none. Mastery in any field of life takes Time, demands Consistency and requires Knowledge to achieve. Some Traffic are inevitable but it’s effect can be minimized or avoided completely.You have a meeting by 12noon, and normally the venue is 30 minutes away but we leave our houses 11:30am. In life as in car traffic jams, this could have been avoided if we had planned better. Planning does not waste your time, on the contrary it saves it. To live and unplannedlife hoping that the Progenitors of the universe will perform magic and make us reach our destination on time will not work. You have to make plans to beat the traffic. The traffic of life may come when you least expect it; challenges are inevitable but victory is possible, but it requires being Intentional. Movement in the right direction can sometimes be slow but it is still Progress – Do not Quit.I have seen cars break down in traffic, I have seen people also give up when they seem to be in a traffic of life, but friends, No traffic is permanent, no matter how slow, it has an end. Your traffic may be failing an exam, it’s a traffic but don’t quit. You may be the one shouldering the responsibilities of your family, it’s a traffic but don’t quit. Your dreams may seem far and your progress slow; don’t Quit.However slow life’s positive progress is do not loose focus.PS: This is not about cars it’s about your life, Be Intentional.

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THE BANE OF SUCCESS (Concluding Part)

Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed, is more important than any other thing. Abraham Lincoln. So far we have seen fear and mediocrity as banes of success, however, the list goes on and on. But one final Bane I will want us to look at is one that walks with us daily. It seats where you seat and lies with you, it craves for ease and comfort,  it wants to marry a rich man or a great lady but it does not want to prepare for that feat, it wants to sleep in but also want to be wealthy,  and it tells itself, “what will be will be” It is YOU Only “You” can become prideful; only “you” can have “humble pride” Pride is simply the over estimation(and something under estimation) of self. If God says you are great, it would be pride to say you are the greatest and it would be a “humble pride” to say you are the least. It is YOU who procrastinate -procrastination is more subtle than fear. Whereas fear simply says do not do that, procrastination says, “that work is hard, let me do the easy one first, then later I do the “hard one” and in most cases we end up never doing the most important task, “the hard”. Not because you cannot but the YOU is enjoying the pleasure of ease, the company of mean men, and the flattery of comfort. Procrastination is subtle because you can go about feeling that you are doing something but cumulatively, it’s a barrel of nothing: an empty container that weights no more than a feather in the balance of life. Beware of the consequences of procrastinating a more important task for a less important one. In addition, indecision, laziness, hate, envy, discrimination, indiscipline, and lots more are things that you (rather we) entertain (directly or indirectly) in our lives for we are for all times and purposes our own worst obstacle. You may be destined by God, to be in charge of an undertaken that is among the most ambitious and faithful of the 21st century; an undertaken that will impact the lives of millions, and yet, YOU can decide not to go through with it by choosing the road of least resistance. Because YOU have decided to settle for less. The Antidote If there is any fault in a product, you take it to the manufacturer for a fix. 1. God 2. You The solution is God and You. Here is what my friend Philemon Agebe wrote about God and… in a fine truth titled “Deo et.” Deo et means “God and” in latin. The underlying burden of this article is nothing other than the invaluability of God in Creation. There is no meaning in life outside of God; As a part of the Productivity tour, Deo et will place God side by side everything. You can fit anything into the space after the “and” and there will be meaning. God and Productivity; God and You; God and Evil; God and everything: The classic is “Deo et”. Therefore, for you to overcome and become a success, you must be in affiliation with God and partner with Divinity.

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THE BANE OF SUCCESS (CON’T)

2. Mediocrity:Whatever is worth doing is worth doing excellentlyThe assumption that average is enough is the reason for stunt progress in the lives of so many.Someone said the challenge is not that we aim too high and miss, but that we aim too low and hit. The mediocre lifestyle is actually living less than we are capable of. Example, you were asked to lead in a song, you sang like you hated singing and you are a choir member; your excuse was that you do not want people to feel you are “over sabi” (Someone that gives more than their best). You were told a week before that you will be taking the opening session of a program, you said okay, but you came up and delivered your session like a fish out of water, your excuse; “I have stage fright”. But you never made any attempt to conquer that fear. This is mediocrity, a bane of success and contrast of excellence.Many people can dance, many can sing, many can talk but only those who are outstanding get a chance. The AntidoteAn Excellent spiritThis an attitude of excellence.We are in a day and age where people are promoted on the basis giving a far above average input that yields far above average interest. Daniel a foremost politician of the monarchical system of the Babylonian empire yet he was relevant, sorted for, and promoted to high ranking positions in four regimes. Even if the seating monarch came to office by bloody coup d’état, he still sort the counsel of Daniel who from childhood to adulthood gave his best (God-ability) in whatever he did.In whatever you do, where ever you are, live as though you are the best actor in the story of your life.The best man is he who is yielding himself to the beatings of the Blacksmith; the mouldings of the Porter; the pruning of the Husband man; the chiselling of the Sculptor and the making of his Maker. to be continued….

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THE BANE OF SUCCESS

He who waits to feel like it before they train themselves will never achieve anything worthwhile. A successful business mogul, a top-notch ICT expert, an anointed preacher of the gospel, a billionaire and Philanthropist, an effective Executive or the CEO of a fortune 500, A loving father or a Proverb 31 mother, an exceptional Student or even a outstanding musician. Whatever the case the truth remains that deeply inscribed in our heart is the desire to be successful. Even though many people want to be successful, there are few things that can poison our chances of the success we desire. 1. Fear:Fear is one of the longest standing bane of Success. It has crippled many dreams, aborted many seeds of greatness and ensured that countless potential never saw the light of day. What Fears are we talking about? A. The Fear of the UnknownWho knows what will have become of that business idea of yours if you were not to scared of starting.What is the use of working hard if you are not certain of the outcome? Some people have had this mental lock and have decided to put so much effort to walk on a road that is common to all men. What the Omniscient has in store for you may be what eyes have not seen nor ears heard yet the fear of this unknown will hinder your access to those promises.Sometimes this fear comes because the content of your dream has never been done by anyone, therefore in our perplexity we quiver into our shell for fear of the unknown. B. The Fear of FailureWhat if it does not work? But what if it does? You must come to a point where you realise that someone failed does not mean the person is locked out of any chance of success. When you allow the fear of failure to creep into your minds, you will never achieve anything significant.The fear of failure diminishes one’s chances of success faster than you can imagine. C. The Fear of RejectionNobody likes to be rejected. What will people say?So many people dread to make any move in the direction of their vision. This fear of rejection has created barriers between parents and their children, the children cannot approach their parent to ask for permission on matters that affect their life for fear of being turned down.I remember a story;A boy wanted to be a disk jockey in a Radio station. He did not have any college education but went to the radio  station and ask the manager if there were any vacancies, the manager said no and sent him away, this boy came the next day, the manager said “didn’t I send you away yesterday?” The boy replied, “sir I don’t know if anybody was fired or laid off yesterday.” “No one was fired or laid off now leave.” The boy left and returned the next day, greeted the manager and ask if there was any vacancy, the manager looked at him and said, “didn’t I send you away yesterday, why have you come here again?” The boy replied “sorry Sir, I thought someone died or someone resigned.” The manager could not help it but told the boy to get him a cup of coffee and that was how he started because the fear of rejection has been dealt with. The Antidote for FearFaith:If you call men like Gideon you will see men who overcame the fear of failure through faith. The prodigal son overcame the fear of rejection, fear of the unknown because he dare to believe that his father will accept him even as a servant.A man of faith will say, ‘I can’t fail: I will either win or learn a lesson.’ You need to fight your fears with faith and faith comes from the word of God. Do not go about feeding your fears by looking for people to tell “don’t comman kill yourself” else you will leave all your life working below your God-given capacities. Work does not kill.You’re told that “…nobody in your family has done it before”. Well, you can be the first.This sickness, this poverty, this negative cycle has been in the family for generations and who knows who will get it next?FEAR NOT it is a lie from the pit of hell. Have FAITH, God is in you, with you, and for you to break that siege and bondage of fear. …to be continued.

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